Tim Shurr | OBA Method

Freedom from Anxiety Series | OBA Method vs. Cognitive Behavioral (Talk) Therapy

When it comes to personal growth or improving mental health, the standard and most recognized form of professional treatment is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), otherwise known as “talk therapy.” The Conscious Solution: CBT Method At the frontline of traditional psychotherapy, CBT provides a structured approach to identifying and challenging negative thought patterns. This widely acclaimed method empowers individuals to consciously reshape their thoughts and actions by increasing self-awareness, challenging current perceptions, and changing the way they talk to themselves. Although developing a “positive mental attitude” is an essential ingredient for improving happiness, fulfillment, and inner peace, it relies heavily on analytical reasoning and one’s willpower to continually reframe (give an optimistic spin) to worrisome or pessimistic ideas. Even though I studied CBT theory and techniques for years in college and graduate school, I quickly discovered that no matter how much effort people put into “being positive,” they reported battling their minds or feeling like they were lying to themselves when making supportive or encouraging statements. I keep using this metaphor because it’s so easy to understand. If you have weeds in a garden and cut the top off or throw dirt over them, they keep growing back and multiplying. CBT is like cutting the top off of weeds. If you don’t treat the source of the negative thoughts, the unconscious fear-based beliefs, the weeds keep growing and multiplying. CBT tools are very effective, but only after you upgrade the core negative beliefs. For example, if you have a foundational paradigm

Freedom From Anxiety Series | OBA Method vs EFT

For the next chapter of my comparison of alternative therapies for alleviating chronic stress, worry, bad habits, and the symptoms of traumatic experience, we dive into a technique called EFT or “Tapping.” EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques. This mind-body practice combines elements of modern psychology and ancient Chinese acupressure principles to provide a unique form of emotional self-care. How does tapping work? The basic technique involves using your fingertips to tap on specific meridian points while focusing on negative emotions or limiting beliefs. By tapping these points in a specific sequence, you allegedly send signals to the brain to “rewire” how you respond to triggers and negativity. Proponents claim tapping can help reduce stress, anxiety, phobias, physical pain, and even past trauma. For example, you might start by identifying the issue you want to focus on, such as feeling overwhelmed at work. You’d then rate the intensity of your stress or anxiety on a 0–10 scale. While keeping that feeling in mind, you tap on a set sequence of points on the face, hands, and torso while reciting a simple reminder phrase like “Even though I feel overwhelmed at work, I love and accept myself.” After one or more rounds of tapping, you’d re-evaluate the intensity of those feelings, ideally finding some relief. The Pros of EFT Tapping: Simple and portable — can be done anywhere Free to learn the basics Considered low-risk with no adverse effects It can provide temporary relief from stress and tension The Cons of EFT Tapping:

Freedom from Anxiety Series | OBA Hypnosis vs. EMDR

Over the next couple of articles, I’ll be introducing you to a variety of treatment modalities designed to free people from anxiety, phobias, deeply rooted negative beliefs, and PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). We will also review the pros and cons of each approach and compare them to my One Belief Away™ Method. Before developing my particular approach, I experimented with every alternative therapeutic tool available to test its short and long-term effectiveness. Thus, I’m drawing from 29 years of personal research and would have stuck with other techniques if they had performed as well as my OBA™ Method. The two methods we are reviewing today are the One Belief Away™ Method and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). The One Belief Away™ Hypnosis Method rapidly identifies and upgrades unconscious beliefs that keep the symptoms of trauma (negative thoughts, emotions, behaviors) alive. It also gently replaces toxic emotions (guilt, shame, anger, resentment, remorse, rage) with self-love, inner peace, and contentment. Finally, the OBA™ Method provides a set of emotional intelligence strategies and conditioned responses so an individual can manage the uncertainties of life with passion, confidence, and intentional resolve. Pros: Direct Access to the Unconscious: This method utilizes hypnosis to bypass the conscious mind’s resistance, allowing direct access to the unconscious where limiting beliefs and traumatic memories reside. Rapid Resolution: By identifying and addressing the root cause of an issue, clients can experience profound shifts and breakthroughs in a relatively short period (often within 30 minutes). Personalized Approach: The One Belief

These beliefs will help you attain any goal

Well, it’s official. I’m moving across the country…again…from Hollywood to Disney World. Moving is ranked in the Top 5 stressors, and my wife and I have moved into new homes and offices 13 times. Heading into the unknown with the promise of an even brighter future has become a habit and I’m only able to do this because of five core beliefs I’ve reinforced diligently over the years. My life (and my family’s) will end up better than it currently is if I follow my dreams. I have the strength, wisdom, and skills to thrive in any situation because I’m always preparing for opportunities. There are an endless supply of opportunities waiting to greet me wherever I go. Life always works out for me in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, that just means it isn’t the end. A fulfilling life is one filled with experiences that shape you into the person you always wanted to be. True self-mastery is being able to remain calm under tremendous pressure. One way to do this is by stating affirmations like “I choose peace admist chaotic times.” Another perhaps more effective way is through asking Power Questions like, “If I knew everything will end up being wonderful, how could I greet this temporary situation?” One of my favorite Power Questions is, “Isn’t this wonderful?” I like that question because it forces your brain to come up with a reason for why it could be wonderful. If you simply affirm that “This

How To Overcome the “I’m Not Good Enough” Mindset: Embracing Your True Worth

Do you ever find yourself doubting your abilities, despite evidence of your accomplishments and successes? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with the deep-rooted belief that we’re not good enough, no matter how much we achieve or how hard we work. This pervasive mindset can hold us back from reaching our full potential and experiencing true happiness and fulfillment. In this article, we’ll explore the common causes of the “I’m not good enough” mindset and provide practical strategies for overcoming it. We’ll also discuss how hypnosis can be a powerful tool in reshaping self-beliefs and boosting confidence. Understanding the “I’m Not Good Enough” Mindset The “I’m not good enough” mindset stems from childhood experiences, such as criticism from parents or teachers, bullying from peers, or comparisons to siblings or classmates. Over time, these negative messages become internalized, shaping our beliefs about ourselves and influencing how we perceive our abilities and worth. Despite external evidence to the contrary, we continue to harbor feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, sabotaging our efforts and holding ourselves back from success. Practical Strategies for Overcoming the “I’m Not Good Enough” Mindset: Challenge Negative Thoughts: Begin by identifying and challenging the negative thoughts and beliefs that fuel the “I’m not good enough” mindset. Whenever you catch yourself thinking or saying self-deprecating statements, ask yourself if they’re based on facts or distorted perceptions. Challenge these thoughts with evidence of your accomplishments, strengths, and abilities. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion, especially when you’re

Finding Calm Amidst Chaos: Managing Work Stress with Hypnosis

In today’s fast-paced world, work stress has become an all too familiar companion for many of us. Whether it’s tight deadlines, demanding bosses, or overwhelming workloads, navigating the challenges of the workplace can take a toll on our mental and physical well-being. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and stressed at work, you’re not alone. In this article, we’ll explore effective strategies for managing work stress when you’re unable to change the work situation. We’ll also discuss the potential benefits of utilizing hypnosis as a helpful tool to cope with overwhelming stress and find a sense of calm amidst the chaos. Understanding Work Stress Work stress can manifest in various forms, including physical symptoms like headaches and fatigue, as well as emotional symptoms like irritability and anxiety. Factors such as long hours, high job demands, and lack of control over one’s work environment can contribute to feelings of stress and burnout. Left unchecked, chronic work stress can negatively impact both our physical and mental health, leading to decreased productivity, impaired relationships, and overall dissatisfaction with life. Effective Strategies for Managing Work Stress: Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries between work and personal life to prevent burnout. Designate specific times for work-related tasks and make time for relaxation and leisure activities outside of work hours. Practice Mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine to help you stay present and focused. Mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, and progressive muscle relaxation can help alleviate stress and promote relaxation. Prioritize Self-Care: Make self-care a

Navigating a Relationship with a Critical Mother: Reclaiming Your Self-Worth with Empathy and Hypnosis

Growing up with a critical mother can leave lasting scars on your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. As an adult, navigating this complex relationship can be challenging, but it’s essential to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being. In this article, we’ll explore effective ways to communicate with a critical mother, strategies for rebuilding and protecting your self-worth, and the potential benefits of utilizing hypnosis as a tool for personal growth. Our goal is to empower you to navigate this relationship with compassion and resilience. Understanding the Impact The words and actions of a critical mother can have a profound impact on your self-esteem and self-worth. Constant criticism, belittling remarks, and unrealistic expectations can erode your confidence and leave you feeling unworthy and inadequate. It’s essential to recognize how her words and behaviors affect you and acknowledge the pain they may cause. Effective Communication: Express Your Feelings: Communicate openly and honestly with your mother about how her words and actions impact your self-esteem and well-being. Use “I” statements to express your feelings without placing blame. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with your mother to protect yourself from further emotional harm. Let her know what behavior is unacceptable and enforce consequences if necessary. Practice Active Listening: Listen to your mother’s perspective with empathy and understanding, even if you disagree. Validate her feelings while also asserting your own needs and boundaries. Strategies for Rebuilding Self-Worth: Cultivate Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, acknowledging that you are worthy of love and respect regardless

Overcoming People-Pleasing and Self-Blame with Empathy and Hypnosis

Do you often find yourself saying yes when you want to say no? Do you blame yourself for things beyond your control? If so, you may be caught in the trap of people-pleasing tendencies and self-blame. In this article, we’ll explore how these patterns can lead to anxiety and stress, and more importantly, we’ll discuss practical strategies and the potential benefits of utilizing hypnosis to break free from these debilitating patterns and prioritize your own well-being. Understanding People-Pleasing and Self-Blame People-pleasing tendencies and self-blame often go hand in hand, creating a vicious cycle of anxiety and low self-esteem. People-pleasers have a strong desire to gain approval and avoid conflict, often at the expense of their own needs and boundaries. They may sacrifice their own well-being to meet the expectations of others, leading to feelings of resentment and exhaustion. Similarly, individuals prone to self-blame take responsibility for negative outcomes, even when they are not at fault. They internalize criticism and setbacks, leading to feelings of guilt and shame. Challenges Faced: Difficulty Setting Boundaries: People-pleasers struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries, leading to overcommitment and burnout. Fear of Rejection: The fear of rejection and disapproval drives people-pleasers to prioritize others’ needs over their own, often at the expense of their mental and emotional health. Negative Self-Talk: Individuals prone to self-blame engage in negative self-talk, blaming themselves for perceived failures and shortcomings, even when they are not responsible. Low Self-Worth: People-pleasing and self-blame erode self-esteem and self-worth, leaving individuals feeling unworthy and

My conversation with the wise philosopher, Lao Tzu

Since age 21, I’ve turned to the wisdom of great people who have sought a deeper understanding of how to feel inner peace in a tumultuous world. One such leader who lived in the 6th century BC was Lao Tzu, a Chinese philosopher who founded Taoism. He wrote the classic book Tao Te Ching, which translates into English as “The Way” and was a philosophical guide for rulers. The following are five of Lao Tzu’s profound insights for increasing resilience and navigating life’s challenges. Embrace the Way of Nature: Lao Tzu teaches that harmony with the universe’s natural order, known as the Tao, is essential for resilience and well-being. Embrace the flow of life and accept things as they are rather than resisting or struggling against them. Cultivate inner peace and contentment by aligning your actions and intentions with the natural rhythms of existence. Practice Effortless Action: Let go of attachment to outcomes and allow events to unfold naturally. Trust in the wisdom of the universe and your intuition, and take action with ease and grace rather than striving or pushing against resistance. Cultivate Inner Stillness: Inner stillness is the key to resilience and clarity of mind. Practice meditation, mindfulness, or other contemplative practices to cultivate inner peace and tranquility. By quieting the mind and tuning into the present moment, you can reduce stress, increase resilience, and gain insight into the nature of reality. Embrace Simplicity: The virtues of simplicity and humility are pathways to resilience and

Insecurities on video platforms are very common.

Embracing Your Authentic Self: Overcoming Insecurities on Video Platforms

In today’s digital age, video platforms like Zoom, Facetime, and social media have become integral parts of our daily lives. While these platforms offer convenient ways to connect with others, they can also trigger feelings of insecurity and self-doubt, especially when it comes to seeing ourselves on camera. In this article, we’ll explore common insecurities associated with video platforms and provide practical strategies for overcoming them. Additionally, we’ll delve into the benefits of using hypnosis as a powerful tool for building confidence and overcoming these insecurities. Many people experience insecurities when seeing themselves on video platforms. Whether it’s the fear of being judged, concerns about appearance, or discomfort with public speaking, these insecurities can create barriers to fully embracing the digital world. Negative self-talk and comparison to others can exacerbate these feelings, leading to increased anxiety and self-consciousness. Fear of Judgment: Many individuals worry about how they will be perceived by others when appearing on camera. They fear being judged for their appearance, voice, or mannerisms, leading to self-consciousness and reluctance to participate in video calls or create social media content. Body Image Concerns: Seeing oneself on camera can amplify insecurities about physical appearance, leading to negative self-perception and dissatisfaction with one’s body image. Performance Anxiety: The pressure to perform well on video calls or social media can trigger anxiety and self-doubt, making it challenging to express oneself authentically and confidently. Strategies for Overcoming Insecurities Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind and compassionate with yourself, recognizing that everyone has insecurities and imperfections.

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