“You’re in a new state where you don’t know anyone. It’s twice as expensive with gas still over $6 a gallon. You are under the threat of fires, earthquakes, monkeypox, and drought. There is no guarantee that you’ll find new speaking opportunities or celebrity clients. Doesn’t that upset you?” Client
“Sure, but are you focusing on what could go wrong? Or on the desired outcomes and opportunities? This is an important question because you move towards what you think about most.” Tim
That was part of a coaching conversation I had with a client the other day.
She was in the grips of anxiety as too many areas of her life were filled with uncertainty.
Plus, she grew up with parents constantly fighting about money and “not having enough” (to make it.)
So she couldn’t understand how I could make so many bold moves with the same amount of uncertainty she was struggling with and still maintain a confident and optimistic attitude.
We all wrestle with doubt, worry, and concern for the well-being of our loved ones and ourselves.
Yet, after decades of studying human behavior, I’ve found this truth evident.
Do I worry and get swept up in fear occasionally?
Of course, it doesn’t last because I don’t let it.
You should only focus on worst-case scenarios if it’s a training exercise for how to handle them if they arise.
Otherwise, you’re mentally torturing yourself; the only payoff is anxiety, procrastination, depression, and illness.
Instead, keep redirecting your thoughts toward what you want to occur and the steps for causing it to happen.
Thousands of people have gone through my One Belief Away™ programs, and one of the most consistently needed resources for increasing calm and confidence is reassurance.
It would develop into a vital skill in adulthood if we had more reassurance in childhood while experiencing embarrassment, humiliation, confusion, fear, pain, and uncertainty.
Sadly, that does not occur nearly as much as one needs it.
More commonly, you hear comments like, “Get over it.” “It’s not that bad.” “You’re overreacting.” “It didn’t happen like that.” “Quit acting like a baby.”
I spend a lot of time reassuring clients and myself that everything works out in the end, and if it hasn’t worked out yet, it isn’t the end.
Regardless of what you’re going through, your feelings are magnified by how you describe the situation to yourself.
All emotions boil down to these two:
Fear <—————-> Love
It’s possible to reassure yourself and still feel scared, but that’s okay because reassurance helps you lean in and charge forward, and that’s how breakthroughs occur!
You’ve got a brand new week ahead of you.
Set your intention, commit to following through regardless of whether you feel like it, and make the time (you’ll never get back) count!
Hoorah!
🙂 Tim Shurr