Are the words you use to describe situations empowering you, or sabotaging your productivity and peace of mind?
Are you focused on the outcome you want? Or does your internal communication emphasize what you’re wanting to avoid?
These an important questions because whatever you focus on, you move towards!
This means if you are placing attention on what you don’t want, or on what you wish to avoid, you’re accidentally reinforcing the unwanted behavior!
A client called my private Hypnosis practice the other day relating that she could not wear her dentures because it caused her to gag. She wondered if I could help with this.
I asked, “When you put the dentures in your mouth, what do you think or say to yourself?”
She replied, “I’m going to throw up!”
I then asked, “What do you WANT to have happen?”
She said, “I don’t want to throw up!”
If you are focused on throwing up, or not throwing up, your brain hears the same words and then acts upon them.
It’s the same as saying, “I don’t want to feel stressed” and “I’m feeling a lot less stressed now.”
On the surface, it may appear that the first phrase means something different from the second phrase of feeling “less stressed.”
Yet, to your unconscious mind, the portion of the brain that controls 80% of your habits and emotional reactions, it means the same thing….”You are still stressed!”
Start paying attention to the words you’re using to describe your daily experiences.
Do you use any of these expressions?
“It can’t get any worse.”
“Not bad.”
“No worries.”
“No problem.”
“I want to shoot myself in the head.”
“The only luck I have is bad luck.”
“I want to lose weight.”
“I need to stop procrastinating!”
“Why am I always broke?”
“My spouse and I can’t stop fighting.”
“I can’t control my cravings.”
“Why is everyone so stupid?”
“This world is a scary place.”
“You can’t trust anyone.”
“Democrats are the problem.”
“Republicans are the problem.”
These statements will sabotage your health, prosperity, and happiness!
Here’s What To Do Instead:
- Clarify what your desired outcome is.
- Use words that emphasis that desired result.
- Notice if any negative words that describe the unwanted behavior or undesirable emotions are being used, and if so, and go back through Step 2.
- Continually be self-aware of what you’re saying to yourself.
- Keep practicing until this new way of communicating becomes more habitual.
Here’s an example:
1. I want to feel more hopeful about the future.
2. “I’m choosing to remain hopeful, optimistic, and calm now, and when thinking about the future.”
3. “I’m worried that things might get worse.” You used the words “worried” and “worse,” which emotionally disable one’s ability to remain resourceful and proactive. Return to Step 2 and replace those words with “hopeful, optimistic, and calm.”
4. Continue paying attention to whether you are causing yourself to feel empowered and encouraged or not. (Notice the words that stand out in that sentence.)
5. Repetition is the mother of all skill. Keep practicing this and you’ll get better at it. Doing so will transform your life!
Make today count!
🙂 Tim
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